By Diane Perea
“Life is a series of dogs.” — George Carlin
It was a celebratory day when she came into our lives.
Our oldest daughter was soon to be married and we were busy preparing for her wedding shower, which would be taking place at our home that afternoon. Out of the blue, this small black sprite of a dog came running into the house and right to me, rolling over onto her back, wiggling her skinny legs in the air and opening her mouth into a big grin.
Turns out our daughter had succumbed to the temptation of a pet adoption event at the local mall. But her fiancé was not exactly thrilled, and when left alone, the little dog barked continually and disturbed their neighbor.
A friend of my daughter’s was going to pick the dog up and keep her, so I played with the lively little pup while we waited for the friend to come.
That dog and I had an instant connection. She was alert, personable, funny and sweet, but we already had an active Queensland/Aussie mix named Tucker, and we were not in the market for another dog.
The friend showed up and took the dog away, but a couple of hours later the phone rang. Seemed the friends’ other dogs were not accepting the new addition, and she wondered if perhaps I might want to keep her?
That is how Rosie ran into our house, right into my heart, and came to stay.
She looked a bit rough, so skinny and tiny, barely weighing four pounds, with fur that was patchy in places. She was black, with white on her chest and muzzle. She’d been rescued from the streets of East Oakland, a rough neighborhood in the East Bay.
We were told she was five years old. She’d had dental work done, was spayed, vaccinated and microchipped. She was obviously a survivor and a happy girl. She came with a bed, blanket, toys, food and a small black hoodie complete with rhinestone skull and bones (SO East Oakland).
She also came with the name Mavis, but I changed it to Rosita to honor her chihuahua heritage, and we shortened that to Rosie. She was in need of her forever home.
Rosie immediately displayed her powers of stealth. Being small and black, she knew how to blend in. It made the transition of having another dog so easy, even Tucker accepted her right away. But she wasn’t docile or submissive. She had personality and the dignity of a small dog who never saw herself as small.
She had no destructive habits, was housebroken and she just wanted to be with us whenever possible. She was playful, loved to go on walks, and she was an awesome traveler: in the car, on long trips in our RV, on planes, even on the subways of New York. She was one of those dogs that everyone loved, she touched a lot of hearts.
I loved everything about that dog: her small, sleek body that fit so easily in one’s arms; her limpid brown eyes full of love and wisdom; her little delicate feet, with tiny bones and soft pads; her tummy, smooth, pink and warm and so willingly offered for a rub. I loved the smell of her head, like sweet warm earth.
In her later years, we had to have all of her teeth pulled except one, so her tongue hung out the side of her mouth. This only added to her cuteness.
Last October, at the age of 13, Rosie was diagnosed with congestive heart failure. When you deeply love someone and you spend every day with them, it’s easy not to see how much they’ve changed. When Rosie got that diagnosis, I realized that she had been declining slowly but surely for a while. Medications and a special diet helped mitigate her symptoms for a while.
Recently, after a couple of particularly hard days, we took Rosie back to the vet. She looked so frail and she only weighed three-plus pounds.
Compassionately, the doctor told us that it was probably time to let her go. I can imagine the shocked looks on our faces, because there was no way we were ready to say goodbye. So we took Rosie home, but it was obvious that her symptoms were exhausting her. Truth was, we would never be ready to say goodbye, but this decision was for her sake, not ours.
We scheduled to have a vet come to our house to put Rosie down. I spent our last morning together sitting on the sofa, holding her in my arms. I had contacted everyone I could think of whose life had been touched by this small being.
Rosie was leaving this world with the loving thoughts of so many. She died in my arms.
We buried her in the garden near where she used to love to lie in the sun, tipping her small snout into the air, sniffing the fresh breezes. I hated leaving her in that grave. The weather here in the Hudson Valley was still bitter, and it hurt to think of her being out there, cold and alone.
I was left with all the habits of loving Rosie. When leaving the house, I would glance to where her bed used to be just to be sure she was okay. I missed the group hug we had each morning when my husband brought her downstairs, and I would give her the first kiss of the day on top of her sweet head.
The throw blankets on the sofa stayed neatly folded now, no longer pulled down and bunched up to cover the small lump of her. I missed her gentle snores in the night. I knew we’d be sad, I knew we would grieve. What I didn’t expect was how fragile and vulnerable I felt without her.
It dawned on me that Rosie was not just a very special member of our family, but loving her was my refuge in what feels like an insane world right now. If I ever doubted the existence of love and sweetness, I only had to look at her. She was my reassurance that all is not lost in these uncertain times.
My friends say, “You gave her the best life, she was so lucky to be your dog.” I know that we were the lucky ones.
For nine years, Rosie asked for so little and gave so much. Her dying was a deep reminder that impermanence is embedded in every relationship. We’d always had a dog in the family since 1988. We missed Rosie desperately, but being without a dog to love just felt wrong.
To help alleviate the pain of our loss, we started to check online for dogs to adopt. It was nothing serious, at first. It didn’t take long before circumstances aligned and we found our next dog.
Her name is Pepper, a year-old Chihuahua mix rescued from a hoarding situation near the Mexico border in Texas. Pepper was in need of her forever home and we were happy to provide it. She’s a terrific little dog and we’re so happy to have her in our lives.
I didn’t think we would get another dog so soon. We still miss Rosie every day. But I think she would approve of our finding another dog to love, because love is what Rosie was all about.
“Dogs come into our lives to teach us about love. They depart to teach us about loss. A new dog never replaces an old dog, it merely expands the heart.” — Erica Jong
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Diane Perea is a Bay Area native who moved to Beacon, New York, four years ago, due to the pull of a grandchild. A retired elementary school teacher, she loves being able to mono task now. She loves meditating, gardening, tap dancing, swimming and hanging out with her 5-year-old granddaughter, Sierra. And of course, she loves dogs and chocolate, too.
Editor’s note: Diane and I have been friends since high school in Fremont, California. I’ve always appreciated her zest for life, reflected in her many interests. We’ve navigated similar phases of life while living in different states and now enjoy a shared experience as grandparents with a soft spot for little rescue dogs.